How to Control Your Anger in Islam

It might be surprising to know that Islam has rulings about getting angry; however, it is considered one of the evil whispers (or waswas) of Shaytaan, the devil.^[1] It can lead to many bad events, such as doing or saying something without realizing the consequence. There are many narrations from the Prophet (peace be upon him) explaining what should be done when one gets angry. This article will help you control your anger according to the Sunnah.

Steps

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   Seek refuge in Allah. This is the simplest way to control your anger. Whenever you feel angry, sit down, and seek refuge in Allah from Shaytaan. In Arabic, say A'oodhu billahi minash shaytaannir rajeem. Have a drink of water, and relax; don't get tense or stressed out.

   • The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "If a man gets angry and says, ‘I seek refuge with Allaah,’ [and] his anger will go away."^[2]
   • Sulayman ibn Sard said: "I was sitting with the Prophet (peace be upon him), and two men were slandering one another. One of them was red in the face, and the veins on his neck were standing out. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, ‘I know a word which, if he were to say it, what he feels would go away. If he said "I seek refuge with Allaah from the Shaytaan," what he feels (i.e., his anger) would go away."^[3]
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   Keep silent. If someone says something offensive to you, don't retaliate and say something mean back. If you're having an argument, be the better person, realize that nothing good comes out of petty arguments, and keep silent. When one is angry, they often lose self-control, and may utter words they later regret.

   • The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said: "If any of you becomes angry, let him keep silent." ^[4]
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   Relax yourself. If you get angry, move away from the source of anger, and sit down. If you still feel angry, lie down. Try to think of positive thoughts, instead of dwelling on thoughts that make you angry. Breathe through your nose and out through your mouth, and try to get a piece of mind. If you're standing, you may, again, out of anger, do something you regret, such as hitting someone.

   • The Messenger of Allaah (peace be upon him) said: "If any of you becomes angry and he is standing, let him sit down, so his anger will go away; if it does not go away, let him lie down."^[5]
   • If the anger still does not go away, make wudu.^[6]
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   Understand what makes you angry. It may be someone at work or at school that you find annoying or rude; instead of getting angry, kindly speak to them. Nothing good comes out of shouting at each other. It's been narrated that, "Whoever controls his anger at the time when he has the means to act upon it, Allaah will fill his heart with contentment on the Day of Resurrection."^[7] The cure to anger is avoiding its causes.
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   Know that those who control their anger are praised. They are given a high status and are praised in several ahadeeth. The Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

   • "The strong man is not the one who can overpower others (in wrestling); rather, the strong man is the one who controls himself when he gets angry."^[8]
   • "The strongest man is the one who, when he gets angry and his face reddens and his hackles rise, is able to defeat his anger."^[9]
   • "The man who, when he is mistreated by another, controls his anger, has defeated his own shaytaan and the shaytaan of the one who made him angry."^[10]
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   Realize the bad consequences of getting angry. In extreme situations, anger can lead to family breakups or someone getting seriously injured. It can be linked to mental issues or lead to health problems such as a high blood pressure or tachycardia.
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   Make du'a. Supplication humbles us and can help us control our anger. There are many du'as for people who find themselves getting worked up easily as a result of waswas. For example:

   • A-oo-dhoo bi-ka-li-maa till-laa-hit taaam-ma-ti min gha-da-bi-hee wa i-qaa-bi-hee wa shari ibaa-dih. Wa min hama-zaa-tish shayaa-teen. Wa ayy-yah dhu-roon.
   • "I seek refuge in Allah's perfect words from His anger and punishment, from the evil of His slaves, and from Satan's whispers and presence."
   • Laa ilaa haa il-laa an-ta subh-haa-na-ka in-nee kunn-tu minadh-dhaa li-meen.
   • "There is no God but you. May You be exalted. Indeed, I was among the wrongdoers."
   • Allah-huma adh-hib ghay-da qal-bee.
   • "Oh Allah, remove anger from my heart."